So I'm on Pinterest a few days ago and ran across a cool little quote, and I know this is totally unprofessional but I'm too lazy to go find the quote, pretty much the main idea is that children now are being crippled by saying such as "be realistic".
And that hit me hard.
How many times have I been told I can't do or be something because I need to grow up or be realistic?
Let me tell y'all something. One of my biggest pet peeves growing up and still to this day is when people tell other people or kids to grow up.
Some of us had to grow up before we even had a chance to know what it was like to be a kid. I am one of those people. My parents were super strict when I was young and then at age eight, they were divorcing and I had a whole new bag of responsibilities and worries to carry on my back.
Now, I feel I am instilled to be "realistic".
I'm going to use my sister as a comparison. My little sister is fourteen and obviously, as she gets older she learns more and more and realizes that not everything is hunky dory. BUT for a good part of her life, even considering our circumstances, she has ALWAYS seen the best in people, ALWAYS has been so easily open to love people and she has high hopes for her future (and she has the right to).
Now me (*snicker*): I have a hard time loving people. I am a loyal friend, I love my family and I enjoy people but I don't completely let people in. Like in the book I mentioned last week by Brene Brown, "Daring Greatly", she talks about being vulnerable. In one chapter she outlines what a person who is not vulnerable looks like, and let me tell y'all, according to Miss Brene, I am far from being vulnerable. I have commitment phobia, I have no empathy and I have a hard time with adapting to change.
I am a reality stricken person and my decisions are based on what is realistic.
My dream job is to write, but instead, I'm going for Nursing (not that I don't want Nursing because I do), BUT lounging at my house in my sweats alone writing an epic novel sounds way more glamorous if you ask me.
But back to what we're told as children are to dream and keep dreaming then one day a switch is flipped and all of a sudden you have to be responsible, grow up and become an adult. Dreaming is out of the question.
How many characters in movies or books are people who dream all of the time that are portrayed as air heads? If you see or read a character of a "dreamer" they are usually some wispy blondes, who happily exhales every five seconds and who lays around and does nothing but smile awkwardly?
Dreaming is frowned upon as we get older!
Why am I judged at nineteen if I want to have big dreams or big goals?
I want to one day live in a beach house in North Carolina, with a super attractive husband, write a few best sellers and travel whenever I want. People scoff at that. They laugh like I'm joking and most of the time I'm joking when I say those things but I do secretly dream about all of them!
One of my spiritual strengths is futuristic, which literally means that I can sit around all day and do nothing but plan my life out and dream, but how stupid can that strength look to someone who is a doer or realistic?
I just want to tell all of you that if you have big, or to society, "unrealistic" dreams, who freakin cares. Dream them anyways. People judge you for the color you paint your toenails to the car we drive so you might as well just dream your heart out because people are already frowning towards you for something.
I'm trying to dream and to keep dreaming.
Let the stars I'm reaching 4 always be a step higher. I don't want an end to what I can achieve.
So dream your hearts out people, dream for an eight pack, dream for a BMW, dream for the money to have the money to hire a good-looking gardener, dream to have more than one kid, dream to get that big paycheck, dream to be healthy, dream to travel and dream to just dream!
Love you guys! Enjoy Dreaming!