Most of us have this big elaborate plan all thought out of how we’re going to go to school, make the big bucks, find our true loves, have kids, make even bigger bucks, vacation every year and drive a fantastically nice car. Great retirement on a beach that hasn’t been named yet, seventy-two grandchildren and still holding hands with that love of our life mentioned earlier.
Now, I know my life just practically started but so far, it isn’t going quite like that. I do have a great family and a good home. I am going to school. My grades could be flushed down the toilet and no one would know the difference. I drive a car that was made in 1992, the check engine light is currently on, I have no idea why. I have an awesome and ornery dog. No love, no kids (thank goodness). My career probably won’t begin for another three years and I make a little more money than the average college kid.
Thinking of the different people that read my blog and their lives, I know some of you had babies without marriage, and single parenting is hard work. I know some of you got married and you can’t have children. Some of you get older each year and you just can’t seem to find that person to spend the rest of your life with. And, some of you have been working since you were fifteen but barely make more today than you did back when you first started.
Although none of these life examples are planned or sound ideal, I love hearing them. They are unique stories from unique individuals and these people are embracing their destinies.
Dear Single Parent,
I can only imagine how hard it is to raise a child by yourself, but what kind of super hero are you going to look like to your kid one of these days when they have kids of their own? You are a superhero even when you put salt in your coffee or wash a red shirt with a white load.
To the married couple who can’t have any kids,
Look around and count how many kids God has placed in your life? I was talking with a certain someone about this just the other day. She mentioned how many nieces and nephews she had and how she loved them as if they were her own and they’re running around everywhere! Enjoy them as if they’re yours, fill them up with sugar and then enjoy getting to send them home at night with their parents to deal with. You are blessed in other areas; I can assure you!
To the people who haven’t found their true love,
It’s a love and hate relationship when we see that beautiful couple laughing and walking together down the street. You feel so happy for them, but you want it for yourself so bad that it hurts. You aren’t alone, even as young as I am, I yearn for that all of the time (I think most of the time it’s God trying to get my attention). But for some of you, you feel like it really is time. Just know that as long as you don’t have that someone, God is making them better, pruning them to be just right for you, and same to you, He’s molding you right now to fit the lucky person that you’re going to end up with. So just focus on God, your job, your family, be happy to be you, embrace your independence and enjoy the big and little things. As you’re being yourself and loving life, you never know who is seeing that from a distance.
To the person who money has never been in their favor,
Two words: TRUST GOD
I’m nineteen, barely make and/or need money, so I’ll talk about my mom instead:
My parents were divorced when I was eight, my mom was a stay at home mom before that and clearly had to get a job after that. Money was never great at my house, but we always had good clothes, a good house and a noisy but running car. We’ve budgeted for a long time and made sure we didn’t stay in the shower for too long to keep the water bill decent. One time a friend just couldn’t believe with the amount that my mom made each month how we could afford all that we did, so he added it all up and it didn’t come back even. We had way more in expenses than we did in her income and it didn’t make sense how we made it work. My mom tithed and trusted that God would always take care of us, even if that meant we didn’t get too far ahead or we got a little scare when the electric bill was higher than usual. It’s insane how much he does for us when we let him do his thing. Keep working hard, enjoy your life and give up the worrying to Him. He’s got you, He see’s you working hard and He wants to help you, so let Him!
To anyone that I didn’t mention above,
Embrace whatever crazy season of life that you’ve been placed into. It may not be where you want, or doing what you want but our all-knowing and wonderful God has a plan. Enjoy where you are right now and embrace it with everything you have, you will never see the bigger picture and there is no magic ball to show you your future. Just live happily in the place that you’ve been put in, hug your kid extra tight today, tell your spouse that you love them, go on a walk, see God in everything and thank Him that you don’t have the hefty responsibility that comes with knowing everyone’s plan. Thank Him that you only have to worry about the step that’s right in front of you.
Love you guys