I’m no different from you, I love encouraging quotes that will help me take on the day, help to create happy thoughts or give a burst of hope in a time when everything around me seems to be falling apart. But sometimes, quotes that can seem positive and empowering, when you look more closely, are anything but.
First on my list:
There are a couple of things I don’t like about this quote. First, it’s a bunch of hogwash. Second, we are usually told this when we suffer a great loss, or when our life seems to be going to hell in a hand basket.
I say it’s hogwash, and that probably offends someone, but I literally believe that. Maybe it’s different for those who aren’t people of faith, but I don’t believe that all things happen for a reason as much as I believe that God can take any situation and use it for good.
When we say that all things happen for a reason, that’s like telling someone that the loss of their child was not only planned by God, but a good thing. And it’s not. Never will be. However, God can take the pain and loss and use it to bring about good.
For example, I have a friend who has a child that has suffered with alcohol and drug abuse. I don’t believe that God up and decided this child needed to become an addict and thus made them so. Nope. And if you ask the mother, I don’t believe she’d look at it that way. However, God has turned a horrible time in their lives for good. She now supports parents all over the country who are struggling to help their children through addiction. She has found a new purpose – she has used pain for good. That to me, is very different than saying that the child’s addiction happened for a reason.
Again, it’s the context and we lose context when we simply post cute quotes in pretty text.
Oh lordy, if this was only true.
Truth is, God gives us more than we can handle all the time. If he didn’t, that would mean he has no faith in our ability to overcome. If our limits aren’t tested, how can our faith grow?
Much like parenting (because, of course, God is the ultimate Father), if we make things too easy on our children they literally can’t deal with reality when it hits them. They are overwhelmed with the least amount of stress and can’t seem to find their way through difficult times.
The Lord MUST give us more than we can handle, so that we are forced to use HIS strength rather than our way. He gives us more than we can handle alone, but never so much that we can’t handle it with him by our side.
I despise this one. Honestly, absolutely despise this one.
Why do I dislike this quote? Because it’s usually told to a child who has lost a parent, grandparent, sibling or another important person in their life.
Talk about setting a child up to mistrust God and find him selfish and cruel – this quote does it. Any time I hear it, my blood boils.
I don’t want to get in to a discussion about angels – although feel free to do so in the comments, just know that this quote helps nobody other than the person saying it – and the only reason it helps them is because they can feel better about saying something rather than saying nothing at all.
Just keep in mind, that especially when it comes to loss, sometimes it’s best to say nothing at all and just sit and weep with your grieving friend.
It’s not that I don’t believe that God blesses us, of course I believe that! He blesses us all the time. But when we buy a new house or a new car or a new pair of shoes and we call ourselves blessed – while other believers can hardly afford to put food on the table, I believe that we are taking the concept of the Lord’s blessings way out of context.
We can’t call ourselves blessed to have material goods while others lack. We like to think that our faith and hard work is rewarded with things – but God’s blessings aren’t material. We are no more blessed than the child who must walk five miles to retrieve water. The Lord’s blessings are peace, love, patience, kindness… the fruits of the spirit. THOSE are blessings. Not a new purse.
One of my favorite quotes is: “When God closes a door, he opens a window, but is sure is hell in the hallway.” I’m not sure who said that, but I appreciate their honesty.
My issue with this quote isn’t that God will create another way for us, but rather the implication that it will happen right away, and in a lesser way.
A window is smaller than a door – or at least the windows in my house are, and I like to think that if the Lord closes a door for us, down the hall, he’ll provide another. But, we usually will have to knock that door down. It’ll take work on our part to see all that God wants for us and what he has behind that new door is more than sufficient.
Are there certain quotes that drive you up a wall? If so, leave them in the comments. I’m always curious to hear your thoughts!